You start talking about him (or maybe you don’t because you worry you might jinx it).
Sure, you’re having a great time together a few times a month, but do you really know where you stand, relationship-wise? As conflict is an avoidable part of life, discovering how your date deals with it is an important part of getting to know him/her better. If your date needs a night on the couch to feel energized and rejuvenated, try to respect that, too. How does your date make decisions regarding big-ticket items?Is one of you hoping it will turn into marriage and kids while the other is commitment-phobic and enjoys seeing more than one person at a time? Money and sex are two driving forces behind divorce.Result: You can’t stop thinking about him, and he’ll pick up on the fact that you’re hinging on his every move. Keep connecting with other men and setting up dates with them.At the same time, keep doing all the things in your life you enjoy. Right, he’ll realize HE needs to step up and schedule time with you.Maybe you’re checking his Facebook page…or doing some research on him online. You try to figure out what he’s thinking about you, or why he said this or did that.
You free up space in your calendar in case he calls.
And this goes against the very core of what you want as a woman – and what he wants as a man. We women like a man to pursue us – to show us that he wants us.
But when we think about him too much, we start to do what I call “leaning forward” – that is, we move in on the space he needs to come forward. You become anxious, and you become emotionally drained from all the analyzing.
Don’t shift your schedule around to make room for a certain man at the last minute. Doing this means you’re not playing hard to get – you actually ARE filling your life with all sorts of fulfilling things. And you won’t even have to think about it.________________________________________________________________________Rori teaches women how to break out of the patterns that have been keeping them from truly connecting with a man’s heart so that they can experience deep intimacy.
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