Fathers in particular are concerned when their ex-partner re-partners or regularly dates different men.
Your partner will play into this, claiming that other people are just jealous of what you have or are just trying to bring you two down. For example, if someone hurts them, they feel they have a right to retaliate.If a teacher fails them, or a coworker says something bad about them, they feel entitled to revenge.Hugging, "playing," rubbing, lap-sitting, and any other physical contact might be considered abusive.Remember, sexual abuse need not involve touch at all—a child can be sexually abused with words only, for example, or with a camera.If they hit you, they will make you feel like it was because of something you did wrong. Talk to a member of the opposite sex, they interrogate you about it. You better be ready to explain where you were and what you were doing and why you were doing it. Teachers and bosses are trying to make things hard for them on purpose.
If they cheat on you, they will blame it on something you couldn’t provide them. You start to feel like you are playing a game to which there are no rules and there is no way out. Your partner has to know where you are and what you are doing at all times. He or she might spy on you, check the messages on your phone, talk to your friends without you knowing, have people “check up” on you, hack into your email account or Facebook to see who you are talking to. But they make you feel like you have to stay with them no matter how they treat you, or that they can’t help the way that they act. No matter what they do, or have done, nothing is ever their fault.
Child sexual abuse does not have to involve sex, penetration, or nudity.
Any time an adult or older person touches or handles a child inappropriately, even if the child doesn't seem to notice or mind, is problematic.
Something that regularly comes up in conversation is single parents’ concern over who their children are coming into contact with when they are not there. Statistics also tell us 95% of sexually abused children will know their perpetrator (I am not a single parent but many of my friends are.
Children who live with a single parent that has a live-in partner are at the highest risk of sexual abuse: they are 20 times more likely to be victims of sexual abuse than children living with both biological parents (As the writer of the children’s book on safe and unsafe touch ‘Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept’ as an advocate for Body Safety education both in the home and in schools, I hear many worrying and frankly very tragic stories from parents whose children have been sexually abused and adult survivors who were sexually abused as young children.
Even if you were perfect, your partner would make you out to be completely messed up. They can be funny, easy-going, exciting, attractive. You feel a pull to them, and they make you feel special. They act as if they are the smartest, hottest, richest or most successful person and everyone knows it. You did something wrong first to make them explode.