The small taste I have had of running the show alone gives me a deep respect for single moms across the globe who daily press on for the sake of their children. Now let’s turn the tables and take a look at our husbands. To work…to provide a paycheck, home, clothes and food for their family. I Timothy 5:8 says, If anyone does not provide for his family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
So our husbands working is a good thing and don’t let the critics steal that honor from your husband. Satan can use this time to enter sinful thoughts into our minds such as self pity, self-centeredness, bitterness, anger, and jealousy.
These and other boundaries should be communicated clearly.
(See: Marry a Partner, Not a Child) Standing one’s ground seems counter-intuitive when a spouse runs, and it never guarantees a positive outcome, however, it is a much wiser choice than chasing after someone. If you don’t chase them, they will be forced to decide what they want. Every time I turn the other way, she turns around and comes to me.
But my dog is trained and loving, not every man is that way.
Sure, I need to thank him for all those years of paying my bills, fixing my bikes, and providing a shoulder to cry on.
Far too often when a husband runs from his responsibility, the wife chases him.
(See: 5 Keys to Save Your Marriage) What is true with dogs is often true with husbands.
If anyone can pick a loser, um, I mean “not very nice guy” out of a crowd, it is these women.
I can understand how a guy could fool a girl into thinking he is Prince Charming for a while, even though he is not.
But after enough time with him, it seems they would have to realize the truth.
Why do they continue the relationship after learning that he is controlling, abusive, or domineering? If I had a problem that needed fixing or a question that needed answering, he was the one I ran to.
Is traveling easier than the work we do at home while they are gone? It’s not easy catching flights, sitting in airports for hours trapped, or driving long distances sometimes late into the night in snow storms, finding their hotel and living out of a suitcase for a week, hearing about their child’s little league games and carrying the guilt of having to miss them. We may attempt to put a band aid on the pain by turning to the television, alcohol, shopping, binge eating, or excessive computer time.