A Singles’ Dating Convention member sent this to me: “I’ve recently joined a different singles’ site and am running into the same issue I’ve had with the previous ones I’ve been involved in.
It seems that somehow my profile targets only those that are looking for money, or are spam. For example, the other night I got a message from a lady on Plenty Of and responded to her and then she quickly responded giving me her Yahoo screen name to IM her.
Put on your battle gear because dating has become a minefield strewn with fakes ready to blow up in your face …
Do report a fake profile to your online dating service, it’s at least a step in the right direction—you’ll be helping out by not letting the next guy or girl be faked out.
If a lot of their profile says, “ask me,” or says very little at all, it’s probably a fake.
What if you are still interested in talking but just not about sex? You might think that if you say no to every man who mentions sex in the first conversation, you won’t meet anyone.
You have to be really clear on that and set your boundaries accordingly. That only means you won’t be meeting the men you are incompatible with and that’s not really a loss.
Unless the online dating industry makes a push toward cleaning up their websites, men and women will continue to fall prey to fake profiles.
You Get What You Pay For It seems the “free” membership sites tend to be the ones most likely to have more fake profiles on them.
Though, recently, I learned that averages 10 percent paid profiles and 90 percent free profiles.
The unfortunate truth is that the paid singles don’t know who is free and who is not.
If he respects them, then he gets the green light and you two can continue to get to know him. Yes, you might get some radio silence at first but eventually, someone will emerge from that rubble and will be similar to you with values more aligned to yours.
The only way you’ll see him or find him is if you shut the rest of the noise down.
After a little while of chatting and waiting and waiting for responses, My response: Unfortunately, you’re running into the sad situation that is online dating.