When she gets to meet my little position, which is that I won’t do monetary favors and run errands for women, she immediately looses interest in talking and texting. I’d say a meager 10-15%, or 1-2 in every 10 girl I meet, fits into this quasi gold-digger bracket.
The girls who aren’t DTF, are often times a part of this class of women who want nothing more than to string guys along for monetary favors, knowing to themselves that they would never become romantically involved with those men.
Maya; What you wrote in your email to Evan is almost exactly what a friend of mine confessed to me about her marriage.
Your ridiculously massive mistake was MARRYING this man, even though you knew how you felt.
That’s not his fault (although he was pretty foolish to propose to someone after 8 months) and it’s not your parents’ fault for loving him.
When I first started dating him, I just didn’t notice it and I liked him for being a nice guy.
2 months into our dating I realized I am just not attracted to him. I married him (knowing I wasn’t attracted to him) because I thought that over a period of time, I would start liking him.
If I’m at a bar and happen to bump into a girl whom I’m already acquainted with and she asks if I can buy her a drink: there’s a 65% chance that I might just oblique- simply because I already know her, probably slept with her already, or not sexually interested in her.
If this’ a girl whom I’ve been trying to bang without success due to her playing hard to get games, I will not entertain such nonsense as to buy her a drink in hopes that she relent on her previous position and quit the games. If she’s good to me; I can see myself buying her a drink. 😉 Nice guys on the other hand, who are everywhere in civil society, tend to ruin it everyone as usual, by not having standards and red lines in which women are advised to not cross.Woman up, tell him the truth, and rip off the band aid.And for god sakes, Maya, don’t repeat any of these mistakes with the next guy, okay?We have fights every other day over this issue and just nothing comes out of it. I am just not courageous enough to leave him and I could not say to him that I don’t love him. I’m not going to make light of the fact that you and your husband are unhappy, which is tragic.I will, however, wonder what exactly is making you tick. I’m not even sure how this is possible, but I acknowledge that sometimes one can get into a relationship where passion is lacking.Still, unless you were actively turned OFF by his face, I’m not sure how you got this far along in your relationship. “2 months into our dating, I realized I am just not attracted to him.” So you married him after 8 months to make your family happy. My official diagnosis, Maya, is that you’re not a bad person for dating a man with whom your attraction is questionable. Some find their attraction grows when they start to love the person.