“A dozen of his favorite movies, 17 of his favorite bands, a million examples of what he liked to eat, read, do. ’ it’s obvious all he wants to do is porn chat,” says Wendy.
“What I would honestly tell you, flat out, is that just because don’t care,” says Wendy.
“Just because someone looks cool and has a good sense of humor doesn’t mean that a woman who clearly states, “I’m looking for marriage and children” is going to respond well to you … ’ doesn’t cut it, but something like, ‘I can’t believe you met Ryan Gosling!
And yet, it’s a common enough gambit that gets would-be daters shot down on a regular basis.) So, don’t be distracted.
Next, pay attention to the major parameters of what your potential date is looking for, and honor them.
Stick to neutral subjects — like mentioning a common ground you share based on something you read in her profile.
[pagebreak] INSECURE ONLINE DATERThe scenario: “It’s so annoying and a major turn-off whenever a guy has something in his profile like ‘still not sure about online dating but...’” — Randi, 25 The problem..the solution: We get it.She recalls a case of one who regaled her with an e-missive that went on paragraph after paragraph.“He threw up against the wall hoping that something would stick,” she says.“If your handle is Scooby Doo, I don’t know what your name is, so when you’re introducing yourself, please tell me your name upfront. ‘I saw your profile and found such and such really charming, or I saw that you like to hike and I just came back from hiking the Appalachian Trail.’” Adds Robinson, “Referencing her profile shows that you read all the way to the end, and care enough to pay attention.” 3.Tell me Wendy bemoans the socially awkward guys who feel the need to float their entire life story before her.By pointing out your hesitations, she’s bound to assume you’re an insecure person. If you feel so inclined to explain yourself, wait to do it when you’ve met in person — and be confident about your reasons for joining.