The person not only has symptoms of OCD but also is experiencing an existential crisis about their own nature. Chances are, if you really think about it, you can identify many examples in which you set aside your doubt and take risks.
Unfortunately, rituals never provide a long-term solution. This strategy works where others have failed (i.e., trying to control your thoughts). One theory suggests that ERP works by helping the brain recalibrate its super-sensitivity toward doubt and uncertainty.
Although they can sometimes be helpful for reducing doubt in the moment, this relief is only temporary. Through repetition, ERP results in a more functional set point.
However, a lot of the use of the term ‘Daddy’ seems to be about a more abstract concept of a loving authoritarian figure rather than an actual relative.
Typically when someone talks about wanting a Daddy-Dom or a Daddy/Baby relationship they’re using it as a shorthand for a style of relationship rather than claiming an incest kink. Any reference to ‘Mommy’ is always about incest roleplay of the naughty son who needs disciplining, educating or restraining.
Likewise, uncertainty about whether a stove has been turned off (and worry about potentially dire consequences) can underlie checking rituals.
Many different types of rituals involve reassurance-seeking behaviors.When we go out together, we’re going to do everything we’re supposed to do to make sure you have a good time and if you let us, we’re going to do everything in our power to please you sexually. Because a good guy takes pride in making sure a woman in his company has enjoyed her time with him.” Amen. You’d be hard pressed to find any of them who would say, “That Evan is a miserable asshole. (Oh, boy, now we’re cutting close to the bone…) “Men use a formula to assign value to the women in their lives and a large part of that formula is derived from how much we believe that woman values herself.If you’ve been giving us all of you while requiring nothing more than our bare minimum then that negatively affects how much we believe you value yourself and we know in our heart we can never be with you.This means we’re going to be thoughtful, we’re going to be charming and we’re going to make your friends laugh when you introduce us to them.We’re going to check on you when you’re sick, send you good morning emails and good night text messages. He’s so selfish and insensitive that he’ll never make a woman happy.” In other words, he can be a good guy and do everything right – but if he’s not acting like a boyfriend, you’re wasting your time. You claim to be a powerful woman, but you don’t act like it. For example, it is doubt about whether one’s hands are sufficiently clean that leads one to engage in repetitive hand-washing rituals.