In this vein, I think teachers need to be better daters.
But teachers, bear with me, and try not to spill your Folgers.I noticed this parallel last year, when one of my favorite students in the world came to me when my room was empty. “Boll, I need to ask you a question.” “What’s up, man?I was never very smooth with the ladies, but I was honored by his bad judgement. But he was more the kind of cool that was going to crush his 30s. Sweater vests, ties with jeans, and conversations about climate change are the kind of thing that coffee dates and wine parties are made of, but they might leave him hanging in high school. So if you are talking to a girl you like, try to ask a lot of questions and let her talk a lot.If you are interested, let her know and ask more questions.He even bought a new place in Manhattan in hopes of immersing himself in the city’s culture and proving he has what it takes to make it on Broadway.
“I think the Broadway community, they don’t take people like me lightly.I couldn’t promise he would magically be the most popular kid in school, but I could promise people would like being around him.Generally—and this is not only true about romance—people are drawn to people who are more interested in others than themselves.Their styles look more grandpa than GQ, their cultural references are usually 10 years too late, and they might be the farthest thing from smooth.Of course, I’ve also seen cool teachers that are really cool.Shoot.” He stuttered in a way that that was slightly more uncomfortable than usual for him, so I knew he wasn’t asking me about an essay or an assignment.