They can make whatever choice they want, but still they're complaining that they don't have enough, not enough options. For example, the Amish have more than one church, but if you join a different church than the rest of your family, you get shunned. Khazan: Like, maybe reality TV, or i Phone games, or ... Because it feels like I’m naked or something without being constantly updated on what’s going on.
My sisters tell me it would just be too hard to see you living this close and you’re not Amish.I don’t get that feeling from them of, “Yes, move up here, be closer to us.” So I don’t feel like I should force myself to go up there and make them like it.I’ve had guys who were interested in dating me, but they would never call me, and I don’t like that.I dated a guy for nine months in Stephenville, and we never once talked on the phone until the day after we broke up.Gingerich: I really enjoy having the ability to share my faith, or my happiness, or share whatever to others, and not feel like I can’t do that because then I'm considered worldly.
Because in the Amish, they don’t really share anything about themselves, how they feel, how mad they are. For the Amish, they just keep it inside and move on.
It sounds like people meet each other as teenagers at church sing-alongs. But if you like someone you immediately are supposed to spend the night in their bed, but not necessarily have sex.
Was it a weird adjustment, to use a website to find a boyfriend?
You don’t want him to see something, to notice something. I love Maine, it’s beautiful and I could see myself living there.
I’ve actually tried looking for a job and looking for a place to live up there, but it just doesn’t work out.
When she voiced her feelings to a family friend, he snuck her the phone number of an ex-Amish woman who would help with her escape. The rapid pace of technology, she says, is forcing the Amish community to grapple with big, existential questions like it never has before. They don’t use it, but I guess there's been so many people leaving and then going back home, so they're becoming more familiar with it. Khazan: What did you think of it when your GED program first said, here's this system of web pages where you can look up anything? I found a picture of him on the Internet and I just thought, I can’t believe he’s my grandfather.