Your lover might positively freak out if you suddenly use the f-word especially if you hardly ever use it. In the beginning your colors might be very gentle and vague, and the more you work on it the more colorful and confident your painting gets.
Conscious dirty talk is like a secret you have with your sweetheart. Examples for more hard-core phrases: “I want to lick your pussy” “Fuck me in my ass” “Spray your juice in my face” (in case your man is not a Tantric :-)) Another way of getting creative with dirty talk is describing what you feel during sex. If you know what makes your partner hot, you feel more confident doing it. It’s figureoutable (thanks Marie Forleo for this awesome expression).
“So to become a conscious dirty talk master you need to open your mind and question your properness.” Start by writing down new words and phrases and try them out by whispering (by yourself first).
You feel that you aren’t able to show your sexual being through sound, through mime, through your body’s movement and also not through your words?If you are a quiet, introvert lover and you feel that there must be more to it, I tell you, there is a way of becoming more active: Learn to become a dirty talk master and overcome that stuckness.There is a difference if you just say your fantasies in a normal tone out loud, of if you slow down, with presence, and use a mystical calmness with a confident intentional emphasis.You may use your moans, groans, sighs, whispering, or in some cases, even screaming. As I said you have your unique sexual expression through words.Like a female body, dirty talks needs enough warming up and teasing before she is ready and begging for more.
You can for example use names for your genitals that you like and turn you on.
But you just haven’t gotten to the point of spitting those thoughts and words out in a hands-on situation. For now be grateful for already having those thoughts.
Maybe you have a few fantasies but haven’t taken action on the dirty talk front yet?
Like: “I love the things you do with your tongue” “You are the sexiest thing I’ve ever seen!
” “I want you” In the end the words are just ways of connecting with one another.
You not only turn your partner on, but yourself too.